Why Arranged Marriage Can Work Out
The concept of an arranged marriage sounds so ridiculous, doesn't it?
"Am I supposed to marry someone I haven't ever even properly talked to? How do I know she is made for me? She might be just the opposite of what I am looking for!" These are the typical arguments you get when you try to talk a youngster of today's world into an arranged marriage.
What the Stats Say
But actually, statistics show that arrange marriages have a greater chance of being successful than love marriages.
Countries like Pakistan where an overwhelming number of marriages are arranged marriages have drastically lower divorce rates than most western countries.
But a family staying together is one thing; their staying happy is quite another. The reason for lower divorce rates can be put down to a patriarchal society where it is difficult, bordering on impossible for a woman to function alone. Hence, women are forced to stay with their husbands despite all the problems because they simply have no other option.
Arranged Marriages Do Make Sense
But arranged marriages are still not as illogical as they first seem. When an arranged marriage is set up, many factors are considered, starting from financial background, education etc. down to the reputation of the families in the society. Only when these things match up, the marriage is ready to go ahead.
When the marrying couple is so similar in background and upbringing, it is very likely that they have similar goals in life, similar habits and similar demands out of each other. These makes things simple for them and makes it easy for them to live with each other.
A common problem that people have with arranged marriages is that you don't know the person you are marrying personally. Well, my experience with the world tells me that people are generally good-natured, especially if you are clever enough to work their personality out quickly and act accordingly. In an arranged marriage, there is a high percentage chance that the person you are being wed to is a decent soul. But, okay, there is a chance that he or she could be a horrible person, impossible to live with. But marriage is a risk anyway, and you just have to accept it.
Arranged Marriage is the Safer Way
In an arranged marriage, a conflict of personality is probably thing that could ruin the family. In a love marriage, where people marry into different kinds of families, in different nationalities, in different societies just because they are in love, the family could be broken apart by many other things too. Arguments could break out due to the so many differences. In my opinion, an arranged marriage is the much safer path with a higher chance of success.
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